Calling all Bellydancing Moms!

For those of you who don't already know, I am 6.5 months pregnant and expecting a little girl in late August.  I have not danced professionally since I started showing at about three months.  I am feeling very out of the game.  I performed at my student showcase, and I still teach my classes, but as far as gigs go.....I haven't been able to do any of those since February.  I am hoping to get back into performing shape soon after the baby is born, but that's not what's worrying me.  I feel like being a pro bellydancer is a constant game of keeping your name out there, staying in the public eye, and building your repuation.  And after all is said and done, I won't have done any of that for about a year! 

Ladies, I need to know how you do it!  How did you get back into gigging after the babies were born?  Was it totally different? I know I really can't go back to the levels that I used to, with multiple gigs each weekend - I was never home!  I will need to scale it back somewhat, I know.  But how to I even get back to the point where scaling back is an option?  How do I let everyone know "Ok world!  The baby has been born and I am ready to dance at  your parties again!  Come hire me!" :-)

How did you do it??  Share your tips, please!  And just for kicks, here's a picture of me from a gig a few years ago.  I forgot I had it!

I broke my own rule!

I was just reading back through some old blog posts, and I saw this one, where I said I always felt that I needed to have a choreography ready if I was performing on stage (as opposed to the usual improv I do at a restaurant or party). 

Well....I broke my own rule!  I did an improv performance - ON STAGE! - at my latest student showcase.  It wasn't so much by choice - I would have preferred choreographing something but I just didn't really have time to do so this year.  So, I grabbed a veil, put on one of my tried and true songs, and just....made it up as I went along!
I think my biggest fear was going up on stage and blanking out - which is funny because I always say that if you blank out and forget your choreography, you can just switch to improv.  I guess if you blank out when you are improv-ing, you can only switch to...standing still?  So, on the one hand, the stage-improv gave me more anxiety than getting up to perform a choreography.  On the other hand, I was more relaxed, because I didn't have anything I had to remember - I could just do whatever came to mind (and I hoped that something would come to mind!).

It was a great experience.  I did not have any blank-outs, and I felt very free up on the stage.  I would try it again, but only in the same situation as this time - with a short song that I know VERY well!

Aradia Workshops in NYC!! June 19-20!!

Aradia is coming back to NYC for another exciting weekend of workshops!!  Email me at danielabellydance@yahoo.com for a registration form - Early Bird registration ends May 19th so don't miss out on huge savings! (Click on the picture to see it larger).

Our Fifth Annual Show!

It was amazing!!! The venue, the performances - it honestly could not have been better!


Thank you to all of my students for your hard work, and to the staff at Frank Sinatra School - you helped make the show look better than ever!

Here are some pictures:

It's that time of year again - Student Showcase #5!

Our Fifth Annual Student Showcase is this Saturday!!

April 17, at the Frank Sinatra School of the Arts (35-12 35th Ave, Astoria). Doors open at 7:00, the show begins at 7:30!

Tickets must be purchased in advance, and you can do so very easily by following this link:

BUY TICKETS HERE!

We have a great show planned, and I hope to see you there!!

No, I don't sit by my phone waiting for it to ring!

Lately, I have gotten a TON of last-minute gig requests - like, really last minute. For example, just last night I received a text from the owner of a club I have danced at before - the text came in at 8:30, he wanted to know if I could dance at 10:00. What!?! No! I have a life, thankyouverymuch!

Contrary to popular belief, I do not sit by my phone in costume waiting for the phone to ring. I need at least 12 hours advanced notice if you want me to perform. And even that is pushing it. Maybe it's because I have a day job - I work 9:00-6:00 every day, and then teach 6 classes a week. So - I'm busy. My weekends are precious to me, and every single second is scheduled weeks in advance. Even if I'm not "doing" anything in particular, I have so many errands to run on the weekends, because of lack of time during the week, that I always feel that I need a weekend from my weekend by the time Sunday evening rolls around.

So, if you call me hours before you need a dancer, don't expect me to take the gig. I am probably busy. And even if I'm not busy, I'm probably exhausted and would rather stay home and rest than flip my weekend upside down in a whirlwind of getting in costume, packing my gig stuff and getting out the door. Sure, I could always use the money. But sometimes I could use my sanity more.

But someone must be doing this gigs, no? I mean - who is actually dancing at the restaurant that called me at 7:00 for an 11:00 show? Or the lounge who wants to know if I can be there in an hour? There's got to be someone taking these last minute gigs, or else these club and restaurant owners would actually need to *plan ahead* and book a dancer - gasp! - a DAY in advance!

So what's your position on last minute gigs? Do you take them? Do you charge more for the aggravation? Or are you like me, where the likelihood you will take a gig with less than a day's notice is slim to none?

How to be a good audience member, Rule #1

Don't get up and walk out mid-show if doing so involves walking directly in front of, or past, the dancer! Especially when she has a sword on her head!! And when there is almost no one left in the restaurant!

Recently, I was performing on a very slow night at my weekly gig. There were a total of three tables when I started my show - two groups of two, and one group of six. One of the tables of two got up and left almost immediately after my entrance - they obviously were not there for the show and got out of there pretty quickly. So, I was left with two tables to perform for, eight people total.

About three quarters of the way through my set, I am in the middle of my sword routine when the table of six gets up, walks right past me and out the door! Leaving me with TWO people to perform my sword, drum solo and finale for!

Now, I know that I am a good performer. I know that audiences enjoy my shows. And I understand that bellydancing just isn't for everyone, and some people will go out to a venue that happens to have bellydancing just to enjoy their time, and not have any interest in seeing a show. But doesn't common sense and decency tell someone that walking out of an almost-empty restaurant, not only in the middle of a dancer's show, but in the MIDDLE of a SONG is RUDE?? No? I mean, I would think it would be pretty darn obvious!!!

So, Rule #1 about how to be a good bellydance audience member - wait until the end of the show to leave. Or if you must leave mid-show, do it so that you are inconspicuous, and at least wait until a song is over!!